Should I Respond To This Comment?

Early on in my ministry (both writing and in the local church) I felt the need to respond to every criticism. Now I do not. Awhile back I spent some time thinking through how to determine whether or not to respond to a critique. Mostly, this is dealing with online discussions but it has application with a few minor tweaks to local church ministry as well. These three categories have helped me, perhaps they will help you as well.

I find it helpful to categorize comments into three categories. First, comment types of which I will never respond. Secondly, comment types of which I might respond once or twice. Lastly, comment types that I will respond to even at length.

Comments Not Worth a Response

  • When I am being slandered. I used to try to defend myself. Now I don’t even bother. God will defend me if I need defense.
  • When I haven’t been read. I understand skim reading and the nature of online communication. I don’t expect someone to spend a lengthy time on an article. Just skipping a point does not fall in this category. Only Scripture is important enough to demand readership. However, if you do not bother to read an article and go straight to the comments and this becomes painfully obvious, I probably will only respond by telling you to read the article.
  • When there is no need. I think some people like to hear themselves type. Some people will hi-jack another persons platform to build their own. Grandiose comments that point to the commenter will usually not get a response. I figure the goal of self-promotion has already been served. You don’t need my comment anyways.
  • When somebody wants to argue for the sake of arguing. This is not easily discerned. But if I can tell that somebody just wants to be contrary and is only concerned about being correct, I usually don’t engage.

Anything that you would add? At times I just do not respond because I do not have the time. But that doesn’t count. I would respond if I could, I just cannot.

Comments Worth a Brief Response

Some comments might mostly fall in the first category but one line or so in them would contain one of these elements. I will respond briefly. Others do not fit the above category but only necessitate a brief response.

  • When I am being misunderstood. It happens to everybody. Sometimes it is because I was not clear. Occasionally, it is because the other person missed something. I’ll do my best to clear up misunderstanding. But as soon as someone falls into arguing for the sake of arguing then my response will stop.
  • When not responding could lead to confusion. A few days ago someone left a comment that seemed to pit something I wrote against another article. I agreed with the other article as well. To not respond would have left the impression that we held contrary positions. I wrote a brief response to clear that up and ignore the paragraph or so of sharp remarks.
  • When someone else is being slandered. This only applies if it is direct response to something I wrote. If you use my piece to slander someone then I’ll call you out on it.
  • When only a brief response is needed. No need to be lengthy if I don’t have to.

Any that you would add?

Comments Worth a Lengthy Response

There is not a need to bullet point this one. It is everything else. I love humble engagement. I welcome critique. Even passionate critique. If I have the time I will engage in a lengthy response on any article if it is needed. I can use the sharpening. I do not have all of the answers.

Online discussions can be beneficial. But this takes time. And if I waste all of my time trying to defend myself, trying to prove everyone else wrong, or responding to things that do not elicit a response, then I will have no time left to actually engage when such a discussion would be healthy.

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As someone reminded me in a comment a couple of weeks ago, “I’m not important”. This list is not an attempt to say, “I’m important and you need to follow the rules to have an audience with me”. That is not the case at all. This list is meant to be helpful to those that might be asking the same question that I do, “Should I respond to this”? It’s not always wise to hit “reply”. I want to be a responsible writer and I think these categories help.

Today in Blogworld 11.16.12

Four Models of Manhood

Tim Chester wonders whether or not we can diagram what it means to be a godly man. He gives it a shot. And I think he provides a helpful diagram.

12 Social Media Tips for Church Leaders

“If I could hit the rewind button on some of the things I’ve done really badly I would. I’ve seen many church leaders use social media really well. However some pastors and leaders have well, ahem, sucked at it to be honest (myself included at times). Some haven’t understood what social media really is and how to get maximum leverage from it.”

Don’t Sanitize the Psalms

“Unlike the stoic legalist or safe churchman, the psalmist expressed the full range of emotions in worship.” Steve Cornell urges us to not sanitize the Psalms.

The 7 Most Popular Contenders for the Antichrist

People love to guess who the Antichrist is going to be. Joe Carter gives the top 7 choices. Personally, I’m leaning towards David Hasselhoff.

This guy is obviously a witch. Not only did he guess which card I’d be pointing at but he also turned me into a newt. Now to decide on what we ought to do with witches…

An Idiots Guide to Week 11 #NFL Predictions

I am back to idiot status after a 7 win week. I did, however, do a stellar job on my crazy picks. Doug Martin had 68 yards. It wasn’t quite a last second FG but it was a close one that the Saints squeaked out. Steelers did keep KC in the game. The Chiefs almost pulled off the upset. AP did go for 175 but only 1 TD. Cutler had 2 turnover but only played the first half. And the Browns surprisingly found a way to not lose on their bye week. I’m hoping to get back on track and pull off double digit wins:

Bills over Dolphins
Falcons over Cardinals (close)
Browns over Cowboys (not just wishful thinking)
Lions over Packers (this one is wishful thinking)
Chiefs over Bengals
Jets over Rams
Redskins over Eagles
Panthers over Bucs
Texans over Jaguars
Saints over Raiders
Broncos over Chargers
Patriots over Colts (wouldn’t be shocked by upset)
Ravens over Steelers
49ers over Bears

Fantasy Stud of the Week: Drew Brees
Fantasy Sleeper of the Week: Rashard Mendenhall

Other Crazy Picks:

Browns can’t stop TE’s, Witten goes off 10/114/2 TD’s
Drew Brees threatens to break records
Chiefs D scores 2 TD’s
Tebow plays because of Sanchez injury, leads comeback
Leftwich is servicable, Foles is not
Romo throws 3 picks
250 all purpose yards for LeSean McCoy
2 TD’s for Mendenhall
40 yards for Alfred Morris

Today in Blogworld 11.15.12

Never the Same—The Sawi People 50 Years Later

Stuff like this always stirs me. It is amazing seeing what the gospel does. Watch this video as it shows what 50 years of gospel advancement in a culture will do.

Brothers, Build a Gospel Culture

I’m digging this “Brothers,…” series from DG. Today Ray Ortlund encourages us to create a gospel culture. If you are stirred by Ortlund’s words to do that I would suggest picking up Creature of the Word.

30th Anniversary of Founders Ministries

Tom Ascol reflects on the origin and expansion of Founders Ministries. Happy 30th birthday. I know I have personally been impacted by the labors of Founders Ministries. Not to make me a better Calvinist but to make me a better follower of Jesus.

Don’t Just Share Your Testimony

Randy Newman shows how the Apostle Paul did much more than simply share his testimony. Share what God is doing in your life, absolutely. But do not stop there.

To everyone rockin’ an in-between mustache in Movember…hang in there: