My Twenty Year Project

I’m working on something and fifteen-twenty years from now it’s going to be absolutely beautiful. It’s going to take my daily dedication and one wrong move might mess up the whole thing. But it will be worth it. I’m confident that this thing that I’m building will bring me great joy.

You see, what I’m building is a reputation. In fifteen to twenty-years when my children are adults they are going to say, “My daddy was amazing”, and then they’ll list off all the wonderful things that I have done as a father.

This might sound like a noble desire. After all, it’s not a bad thing to desire being a good father to your children. I want my children to see in me a reflection of God’s fatherly love. So my desire here isn’t all bad, but in reality I believe I’m just carving an idol to display on a mantle twenty years down the road.

Surely 1 Thessalonians 2:4 applies even to our future children.

but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts.

Am I shepherding my children for their good and for the glory of God? Or am I shepherding my children so that down the road they’ll acknowledge my faithful shepherding?

People-pleasers don’t do the hard things. They won’t discipline when it is needed. They’ll let their itchy-eared children (2 Timothy 4:3) dictate the direction of the home. Because they cannot bear the thought of their children’s disapproval they’ll willingly endure the disapproval of the Lord, for the smile of their children.

I want my children to smile when they think of their daddy. But I want them to smile because they are godly and they know that their daddy did everything he could to make much of God. I don’t want them to smile simply because I was a cool dude that did everything I could to make much of them.

Time to stop carving out that idol…

Today in Blogworld 06.18.14

5 Ways to Encourage Cultural Engagement Without Hijacking Your Church

If you want to engage the culture but do so in such a way as not to hijack the mission of your church, here are five ways to do it.

Would You Destroy the Internet?

Interesting question. If you had a big red button that with one push could destroy the entire internet—would you push it? I like the answer given here.

A Short History of the Executioner

I’m a nerd. Stuff like this is really interesting to me.

Why Was Judas Carrying the Money-Bag?

Was it terrible stewardship for Jesus to put a thief in charge of ministry funds?

The beauty of God displayed in this short film moved me to tears. The 5 minute OT:

What Did Jesus Mean When He Told Us Not to Judge?

It’s Friday night. It’s Fall. It’s Football season.

You load your family up in the minivan to support the local high-school football team. You scan the bleachers for a space large enough to contain your squirrely children. Up a few rows in the bleachers you find a spot and unpack the house and set up camp with your kiddos.

No more than five minutes into the game you begin regretting your choice of seats. Your children and their virgin ears are being treated to a litany of new words. “F” this and “F” that. And the poor ref has already been called things that even you have to look up on urban dictionary to understand.

You would think that sitting in front of one of your deacons would have been a safer bet.

After the game you lovingly confront this deacon about his language. You admonish him with Ephesians 4:29 and remind him that the referee also has a family—and that calling him some of those names likely wasn’t “building him up”. You tell him that the only thing he “built up” on that night was, unfortunately, your child’s vocabulary.

Mr. Deacon, though, is not to be outdone. He knows his Bible too. And he quickly points you to Matthew 7:1. “Do not judge, or you too will be judged”.

Bam!

Argument over. How dare you cast judgment on this guy and question his word choices?

What does Matthew 7:1 mean?

I’m convinced that Matthew 7:1 has replaced John 3:16 as the most quoted Bible verse. I could have shared any number of scenarios in which this verse is given as a response to rebuke and admonishments. In our culture anytime someone states that a certain behavior is wrong or sinful it is nearly inevitable that someone will pipe in with not judging.

But is it judging to point out the sin of another person? What does Jesus mean in Matthew 7:1 when he tells Christians to not judge?

First, we should note that there is a type of judging that Jesus forbids. If you keep reading in Matthew 7 you’ll see what type of judging Jesus is talking about in verse 1. Verse 2 helps us see that whenever we judge others with a different measuring stick than what we judge ourselves we are being judgmental.

Also, if I believe that your sin is more odious than my own sin, then I’ve fallen into the type of judging that Jesus forbids in Matthew 7:1. Likewise when I am so focused on your sin that I cannot see my own—and I become a terrible hypocrite—then I’m guilty of judging in the way that Jesus forbids.

Matthew 7:1 isn’t a verse that is given to us as a defense against criticism or rebuke. As believers we ought to respond to others admonishing us whether they’ve got a huge plank sticking out of their eye or not.

This verse is given to those that are giving the rebuke to check their own hearts. To use it as a defense is actually to place yourself in the position of the guy with a plank sticking out of his eye. You, being guilty of cursing like a sailor and causing little ones to stumble (that’s your plank), are focusing on the way in which you were rebuked (that’s the speck in his eye).

Can Christians Ever Judge?

It’s clear even in the context of Matthew 7 that there is a way in which Christians ought to judge. In verse 5 the one giving the rebuke is told to take the log out of his eye and then worry about the speck in the eye of your brother. He doesn’t say, “don’t worry about the speck”.

There are other places in Scripture where Jesus actually encourages people to judge. In John 7:24 and Luke 12:57 he tells those listening to judge him—and to judge correctly. This implies that there is a fixed standard by which men may judge the truth of something. And it also shows that there are correct ways of making a judgment and incorrect ways of making a judgment.

Paul said much the same thing in 1 Corinthians 10:15 and he even said that those who are spiritual make judgments an all sorts of things (1 Corinthians 2:15). Yes, there is a right way to judge and wrong way to judge.

If you view of Matthew 7:1 prevents  you from obeying all of the other verses which encourage you to admonish one another, to make truth judgments, etc. then you are likely misreading Matthew 7:1. Likewise, if your view of all those other verses neglects the very real admonishment in Matthew 7:1 then you aren’t reading those other verses correctly.

The believer is to make right judgments using the measuring stick of God’s Word (for his own heart and the life of others).

Today in Blogworld 06.17.14

10 Words “The Simpsons” Invented

Having not really watched The Simpsons for awhile some of these were new to me. But it’s still pretty cool that they’ve managed to actually invent a few words.

Success is Dangerous

Yep.

10 Personalities that Have No Place in Christian Marriage

One of them is milquetoast. I’ve got to confess I’ve never heard that word before. If you are like me, it means “weak, timid, or bland”.

When My Fashion Accessory Told Me To Take a Hike

Tim Challies has a certain fashion accessory that he now realizes he needs to get rid of—or at least repurpose. I really thought it was going to be a man purse….

A dude that knocks over dominoes has 200,000 subscribers. He celebrates this occasion by knocking down 22,000 dominoes in a quite elaborate display: