The Velvet Slap

I don’t know if you heard, but Benjamin Netanyahu spoke before Congress yesterday. The President did not agree with his decision to do so, but Prime Minister of Israel Netanyahu did so anyway. He was invited by the Speaker of the House and the President had no right to rescind that. The rhetoric leading up to the speech was inflammatory enough. It only got worse post-speech as pundits weighed in on both sides.

One side took issue with him speaking at all and sought to discredit him or anything he would say. The other crowed about the speech as a political victory and a show of leadership and passion they wished for in their President. The regular joe on the street, people like you and me, said some pretty crazy things across Facebook and Twitter.

Insults are referred to as “jabs” as though it were a boxing match. I think it’s because we recognize what they are intended to do, harm the opponent. These folks would likely never slap their opponent, but it’s as though they think dressing their hand up in a velvet glove and then slapping them is OK. Clever rhetoric and flowery speech to insult someone is still doing the same thing as an outright insult. Just as a velvet gloved hand slapping someone and a boxer throwing a punch are both intending to injure.

“Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.” (Titus 3:1-2)

Those verses should be a cup of cold water on the hot and bothered arena that passes as political discourse and commentary. The rulers of Paul’s day were nothing like the men and women who govern America. The Emperor ruled with incredible power and brutality. Keep that in mind as Paul warns us to be submissive to rulers and authorities.

Not only are we to be submissive to the government but we are not to speak evil of them. This doesn’t mean we can’t disagree. The American political system allows and thrives on disagreement. Through this disagreement compromises can be reached. Through this disagreement votes are cast to determine the will of the majority. Discussions over various things in the House and Senate chambers show that many disagreements exist.

However, we can disagree without murdering the character of those we disagree with. We are commanded to “speak evil of no one.” Let that sink in. We speak the truth, and no I don’t mean the truth as your political views would have it. We avoid quarreling (fighting, not discussing). We are to be gentle and show perfect courtesy toward all people.

How would our political landscape look different if we weren’t trading velvet slaps but treating each other with gentleness and courtesy as we disagreed over profound things? Instead of using sophomoric insults on the President, Vice President, Speaker of the House, Senate Majority Leader, and various and sundry other people, what if we spoke with respect?

What if we Christians showed the watching unbelievers that we could discuss in love and respect rather than frothy mouthed screaming matches hurling junior high insults and asserting things we can’t prove as true? What if we quit behaving like American political pundits and commentators and instead spoke with the love of Christ to a watching world?

What if we did what the Bible says in these two verses? Not only might we show the world something of Christ, we’d be obeying the instructions our God has given us. While you may get a chuckle and a back-slap for that next velvet slap at some elected official, will you honor your God with it?

   “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8, ESV)

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The last line is worth the price of admission.

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If you don’t laugh at this someone has obviously stolen your soul:

How To Use the Bible to Avoid Annoying Christians


Are you annoyed by fellow-Christians being all up in your business? Would you like to just live life the way you want without having to deal with that nasty feeling you get when you are around those super-holy Christians? Tired of feeling judged?

If so, I’ve got great news for you. By using the Bible…yes that Bible…you can defend yourself against the onslaught of Christian conviction. Nobody likes to feel bad about themselves—and now you don’t have to.

There are three truths in the Bible that if applied appropriately will protect you from those nosy Christians always trying to make you somebody you are not.

Truth #1: Be You

Read Psalm 139:14.

This means that God created you as a unique individual. It’s also solid biblical theology to say that you cannot relate to God as someone else. You must relate to God as you really are. So be who He created you to be and don’t try to be someone else. Authentically relate to the Lord and to others.

Most of those invasive Christians will agree with all of that—as they should, it’s biblical. But don’t stop there. Really drive this point home. Use that truth to say something like this:

I’m just going to be me. I don’t care what other people think of me. If they have a problem with me or my behavior or my choices then that is on them. I live my life and you live yours.

It’ll take more than this to quiet those aggressive Christians who hide behind the sham of “caring for you”. What you really need at this stage is to believe this truth yourself. You need to convince yourself that God is satisfied with you just exactly as you are. And he doesn’t want you to change one bit.

Truth #2: Avoid Toxic People

Read Philippians 4:8, 2 Timothy 2:23, Romans 16:17

Scripture tells us to set our minds on positive things. Likewise we are told to avoid certain types of people—among them those who are divisive and only seek to bring us down.

It is good biblical counsel to surround yourself with people who encourage your faith. And there are times when you need to distance yourself from toxic people.

And who is more toxic than a fellow Christian who is making you feel bad about yourself? You need to tell them and yourself something like this:

If you aren’t for me then I don’t need you. If you don’t approve of me and the choices I make then I don’t need you in my life. I’ve got to surround myself with positive people who are going to encourage me.

Shut those contrary voices out of your life. Remind yourself daily that a toxic person is one who leads you away from your “authentic self” (see #1).

Truth #3: Judge Not

Read Matthew 7:1-5

It is biblical truth that we should be more concerned with what we see in the mirror than what we see in someone else’s mirror. I should worry about my own relationship with God before I start picking at someone else’s life.

All you have to do is remind those prying Christians of this verse. Point them to Matthew 7 and point out the log in their eye. They’ve likely got stuff in their own life they are dealing with—after all we are all sinners. Remind them of this and point out that since they aren’t Jesus they don’t have any right to ever judge you. 

If you wholeheartedly believe these three truths and apply them in the way prescribed above you will erect an almost impenetrable force field for any believer to speak into your life. No more intrusive fellowship. No more inquisition. It’s just you and Jesus living the way you want to live.

And it all comes at the low introductory price* of shutting yourself off from those toxic people that didn’t like you for you anyways.

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*Legal disclaimer: After the low introductory price you will be charged monthly fees at a much  higher rate. Having shut yourself off from these “toxic” people you’ll also be cutting ties with actual change and meaningful Christian fellowship.

Also, for legal purposes, I must mention that studies have found that these “bad feelings” are only shut out for a season. After time it will stop working. You can go back through these three steps but eventually they too will wear thin. You’ll have to engage in even more extreme measures to shut out Christian conviction—eventually even denying the One who bought you.

But, hey, it’s worth it! Nobody wants to feel bad about themselves.

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When news broke about the 21 Egyptians being beheaded questions came to me about Coptic Christians. I had to confess my ignorance—so I’m thankful for this from Kevin DeYoung.

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I’d never heard of doxxing before.

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