Read This! 01/17

4 Ways to  Recognize Lazy Leadership

I think on that first one sometimes it isn’t laziness as much as not knowing how to effectively delegate.

In the Valley of Postpartum Depression

Churches should think through how to effectively counsel during this season.

Why the Ark Will Never Be Found

I don’t believe my dispensationalist friends would agree with this…but I found it quite intriguing.

How Black and White Christians Do Discipleship Differently

This is interesting.

When You Feel Dead Inside

Helpful questions to ask yourself in those most unwanted times.

Are You a Confirmation Bias Christian?

One of the absolute best articles I’ve read in awhile.

Rhett and Link show us how all of our tough decisions end up with the same result:

A Hope and Prayer for MLK Day

I still remember fighting back what would have been embarrassing tears. I believe it was second grade when I heard for the first time the story of Martin Luther King Jr. I was moved at what this man accomplished and pained by the absolute unfair treatment of African American people. I couldn’t cry though, because in my neck of the woods I’d have received a label that I wasn’t mature or bold enough to want attached to my name. So I wept inwardly and hypocritically joined the ranks of some of my other classmates in saying that MLK Day was stupid.

But that didn’t keep me from being intrigued by MLK and Jackie Robinson and other heroes of the civil rights movement. As I look back even now I wonder if seeds of gospel faith were planted when reading MLK’s Letters from a Birmingham Jail. I know that as a young boy I embraced Dr. King’s dream:

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

But, I don’t think Dr. King’s dream is being realized in our nation. And the fear that I have in making the point that I want to make might be evidence A. What I see on social media and online articles are not people judging one another on the content of their character nor on the truth of the words that they speak but the color of their skin.

I don’t know how many times I have seen a white person get absolutely torched because he has asked an honest question about race. And rather than him being judged by the content of his character or the truth of his words he is dismissed as a white man who just doesn’t understand and will never understand. I think that’s why I found Taelor Gray’s Hostages to Hegemony so unsettling. To me it communicated that if you are living in a white rural area that you just will never understand. That, to me, is judging someone based not on character but on the color of their skin. And there are thousands of similar articles—many far less gracious in their writing.

What I am attempting to say here is that we aren’t even able to have much of a conversation about these things because Dr. King’s dream has not been realized. His statement cuts both ways. We haven’t realized his dream until people of every color walk into a conversation judging one another by the content of our character instead of the color of their skin (whether that skin be white, black, olive, or some other shade of beautiful).

But I also fear making the statement I am here because I’ve also witnessed many white folks close their ears to actual racism and cut of dialogue while screaming “reverse racism” from the top of their lungs. They too have not realized Dr. King’s dream. They still see through a lens of color and not character.

So on this MLK Day I’m praying that we are given the eyes of the Lord who doesn’t see in colors but in terms of character. I’m praying that we can have actual conversations which leads to fruitful actions because we all buy into Dr. King’s dream. Which really isn’t his dream but it is the passion of the God of the universe to unite diverse people under the banner of His Son. I’m longing for the day when Christ makes all things right and racial reconciliation is no longer a conversation but a reality.

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Read This! 01/12

Why Kids Ask Why

Some good parenting tips in here.

Thoughts on Christian Publishing

Yep. And I think some of this is that many people read books to be entertained and read online in order to learn.

A Christian’s Journey Through Depression

I appreciate hearing Rachel’s story.

Rule of Three

What I really need is this laser focus. So easy to get distracted but focusing on three big tasks per day would help me to get back to it when the distractions come.

6 Questions to Diagnose Subtle Gossip

Very helpful. I suppose the nature of subtle gossip is that you find yourself fully immersed in it before you even realize it.

Stop Telling Millennials Marriage is Hard

Amen!

Dealing with Abusive Men

This is a rather lengthy, but beneficial, reflection on Psalm 129.

3 Areas in Which Parents Must Persevere

So undoubtedly these will be areas of challenge as we parent.

Love the way Todd Friel puts this in perspective:

Why We Need Less “Honesty” And More Worship

In a recent conversation between Bono and Eugene Peterson, the U2 front man said this:

“I’m talking about dishonesty that I find a lot of in Christian art. A lot of dishonesty. And I think it’s a shame because these are people who are vulnerable to God—in a good way—vulnerable. I mean porous, open. I would love if this conversation would inspire people who are writing [with] these beautiful voices, these beautiful gospel songs [to] write a song about their bad marriage. Write a song about how they’re pissed off at the government. Because that’s what God wants from you. The truth…and that truthfulness…will blow things apart. Why I’m suspicious of Christians is because of this lack of realism. And I’d like to see more of that in life, and in art, and in music.” (Quoted from here)

I want so badly to agree with Bono. I am tired of shallow writing and shallow music. I’ve long been a proponent of intentionally giving lament a place within the local church expression of worship. It is the fact that these laments were public and Godward which has me nodding my head with much that Bono says in the above paragraph.

Yet I believe there is also a way in which such “honesty” will not benefit the church but instead numb our souls. There is a way in which we can lament which isn’t life-giving but rather deadening to our worship. There is a type of “realism” which misses the Real. And I think in our effort to pursue honesty in our art we put ourselves in danger of falling off the other side of the horse.

I can imagine that mad at the President song, which is sure to be a hit in 2017. “I don’t like the President. He’s not my leader. He’s a big dumb meanie pants. Here are all the reasons why….blah, blah, blah…just thought you should know I’m not happy God.” Now, of course Bono is talking about something far more artistic and beautiful. But at the end of the day I fear that what we often mean by language of lament is permission to complain to God and tell him that we aren’t happy with the way he is dealing in the world.

Our Language of Lament

But that is a far cry from the Bible’s language of lament. In the Psalms, the Bible gives us a wonderful pattern for being real with God in a corporate setting. And it also provides us with individual Psalms of lament. They follow a predictable pattern with a few notable exceptions. Almost without fail they start with calling out to God, crying out for help, sharing their beef, and ending with praise and confidence in God to come through. What you don’t find much of are angry tirades against God or even those Psalms which just kind of end in brokenness. They exist, but they aren’t the major thrust of the Psalms of lament. “I’m not happy with you God” is coming up just a bit short of “casting all your cares upon the Lord”.

Don’t get me wrong, there is a way in which God invites our rant. But there is a difference between carrying our vent to God and making it public. Consider Asaph in Psalm 73. Dude is about to burst at the seams. He is overwhelmed with confusion, anger, and bitterness. Some of his anger is directed at people but more than anything he is mad at God.

What would his art look like in that moment? What would it mean for him to “be real”? It’d likely be a rant. His song would have likely been one of those “I’m not happy with you God” type of songs. But look again at Psalm 73 and see what Asaph did. “If I had said, ‘I will speak thus’ I would have betrayed the generation of your children.” Asaph knew that what was real for him in that moment was more in line with the lies of the Fall than with actual truth. And so he shut his mouth.

Asaph had learned a lesson which many of us pastors/leaders would do well to learn. Speak publicly of your scars and not necessarily your wounds. It is the fool who gives full vent to his thoughts and says everything he is thinking and feeling.

Conclusion

In our day and age what I’m feeling has come to equal what is truth. And if you don’t give full vent to your feelings then you can be accused of being “not real”. And so we assume that what it means to have a language of lament is to just say everything we think and feel about the brokenness around us. But the Psalms teach us a different refrain. The Psalms don’t end with how we feel but push towards how we ought to feel. The Psalmists almost without fail point us One who is higher than our present troubles.

And so what I’m saying is that there is a way which we can be so focused on our wounds and our brokenness that we lose the purpose of the lament; namely, to life us higher. Yes, we must be real and authentic and not just put on shiny faces and pretend like everything is wonderful when it is not. But we also must remember that there is a Real which is much bigger and much more true than the fallenness all around us.

This is why I say we need less “honesty” and more worship. We need to create art which draws us out of ourselves and towards another. Sure, talk about how life sucks at times but don’t make that the refrain. Use the language of the Psalms and be really real.