Pray With Your spouse: Day Twenty-Nine

Day Twenty-Nine: Stability

“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” –Matthew 7:24-27

What is your marriage built upon? There are many things which appear to be sturdy that we can build our marriage upon, but they are all shifting sand. I remember seeing photos of some of the most intricate sandcastles ever built. The people had to spend days on those things, only to watch them eventually destroyed by the waves. We can do the same with our marriages. When we build on sand we shouldn’t be shocked by instability in our lives. Christ, calls us to be wise and build our house upon the only sure foundation; namely, Himself.

Father, we confess that far too often we build upon sand. We feel the instability of these foolish choices. Thank you for allowing them to come up empty. Thank you for the grace of failed sandcastles. We want to find our security and stability in the only foundation which will stand. Help us to recognize the sand in our lives and replace it with the rock of our salvation. Amen.

Some of the sandy structures we’ve built are intricate and beautiful

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Pray With Your Spouse: Day Twenty-Eight

Day Twenty-Eight: Live Out Your Roles

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord…25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. –Ephesians 5:22, 25-27

This is the controversial one, but I’m convinced it shouldn’t be. God has made men and women differently. We complement one another. We are fully equal and yet God has given us distinct roles as we relate to one another. We can fight against that or we can live out these roles in the strength of God’s power. Wives are called to submit to even their ungodly husbands (see 1 Peter) as a way to model the gospel. And husbands are called to submit even to ungrateful wives as a way to model the gospel. Your partners response to your fulfillment of your role does not change your responsibility. Let us work together to accurately model the gospel in the way we relate to one another.

Father, we thank you for the roles that you have given us. There are things that are difficult about each role but we know that you give us your power to fulfill our responsibilities. We also know that the gospel is at stake in the way we love our spouse. Help us husbands to sacrifice for our wives the way Jesus did for His bride. And help us wives lovingly follow our husbands leadership the way the church does Christ. We know that we will never perfectly model this, but help even our broken mirrors accurately reflect Jesus. Amen.

Thoughts On Leading Children to Christ

The little boy was very upset that once again he didn’t get to take the Lord’s Supper. He knew that his church (and his parents) believed that you needed to be baptized in order to drink grape juice at church. What made this Sunday even more painful was that his best friend—who had just been baptized three weeks earlier—would be snagging his first communion wafer, while little Billy would still have to deal with his grumbling stomach.

If you would ask the little boy why Jimmy was able to get baptized, his answer would be, “Because Jimmy got the right answers and I didn’t”. Little Billy had been studying for this test for weeks but he still couldn’t quite explain the message of the gospel. Last time he got a bit confused on his explanation of sin. And so he knew he’d have to wait another month or two to try to take the test again so he could receive his rich reward of getting dunked in front of his friends and family.

The previous two paragraphs are a little tongue in cheek…but only a little. I’m convinced that there is something a bit askew with the way we talk about the gospel with children. It feels to me more like giving them an SAT exam or taking a drivers test, than truly seeing the work of God in their life. If they pass they get to go to the college of their choice or they get to legally drive mom’s car.

I think the problem is that it’s pretty difficult to see heart change with many children. My kids have both grown up in church. They can tell you the ABC’s of salvation. They know that Jesus died on the cross for their sins. They know that Satan is evil. They want to go to heaven instead of hell. They believe that obeying God is a good thing. They try to read their Bible. But none of those things equals a heart change.

Kids are learning new facts all the time. My son once couldn’t read or do multiplication. Now he can. My daughter couldn’t write out her name. Now she can. In the same way they once couldn’t articulate the gospel—now they can. But does that make them saved? After all, they can pass the “know the gospel” test.

You see it’d be a bit easier with an adult. If a guy is having multiple affairs, abusing his spouse, and getting in bar fights every Saturday night, you aren’t going to call him saved just because he knows a few facts about Jesus. (At least I hope not). If that guy comes into the pastors office and says he’d like to be baptized because he wants to follow Jesus and yet refuses to stop cheating on his wife and really doesn’t pursue life change, then you’d likely question his repentance. You’d be a little hesitant to sign him up for baptism.

Why then do we throw this out the window when it comes to leading children to Christ? Do we assume that kids are saved a different way than adults? In order for salvation to happen the Spirit must change the heart of a child just as He must change the heart of an adult. No matter the age salvation is a work of the Spirit.

And there are some things that only the Holy Spirit can do. Parroting gospel facts isn’t one of them. Demons can do that…and do it far better than little Billy. But demons don’t have conviction of sin. Demons don’t have a thirst for holiness and following after God. When you start seeing these things in your child…that is when you know God is working.

So, if you are a parent or a ministry leader try looking for heart change more than just recitation of facts.

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